from Emily Bryan ...
Amid all the talk of rudeness that seems to pervade our public life now, I noticed an interesting blog phenomenon this week. I stumbled onto a fairly well-known writer's blog (no, I won't reveal his name because it would only drive more traffic to his site!). He was complaining about unpublished authors asking him for favors. In a really snotty tone.
His site gets 45,000 hits a day. He had over 300 comments. On one post.
Blunt, I'm ok with. Forceful, I understand. Nasty? Not so much. I get that you probably need to be controversial in order to draw that sort of readership, but do you have to also be mean-spirited about how you express your views?
At the risk of sounding prissy, I wonder if there doesn't need to be a Miss Nettiquette reminding people that just because you can't see and don't know who you're talking to, it doesn't mean you can be a total sphincter!
In a Survivor-mentality World, I know I'm tilting at wind-mills here. But my Midwestern soul just rises up and says (politely, of course!) "Why can't you say what you have to without demeaning others in the process?"
Then the practical side of me whispers "What do you think would happen to your career if your blog got 45000 hits a day?"
I'm sure I could come up with some good zingers to hurl into cyber-space. It might draw more readers if I whine and complain or dish dirt on other writers. A good web-feud sucks people in. People will watch with horrified fascination at a cyber-flame up. Why, I could be on Oprah (the Holy Grail of book marketing) if only I was willing to open a vein and give the world a peek into any private pain I might have.
And then I remember that I have to wash my own face each morning.
And cynically nasty-ing up my blog posts in order to start a web-fire would make facing the mirror a tough thing.
So don't expect me to start trash-talking. It may be in me, but it's not coming out as long as I can help it.
P.S. Please join me and my fellow-Chatelaine Jennifer Ashley at The Romance Studio today for excerpts of kissing scenes from A CHRISTMAS BALL!
Friday, September 18, 2009
from Emily Bryan ...